What Does Go Down Mean Sexually? Well, this is an interesting subject that I love discussing with my peers and the reactions in such discussions are always telling how green people can be. Typically, this is a term used by partners meaning they plan to engage in oral sex. Still, unless the opposite gender and orientation are either listed or otherwise known, it is cumbersome to cover all possible aspects as clearly as possible. The English language has not caught up to the changes that are happening, but in the youthful corridors, there are words that often surround the streets like blue job and cunnilingus used on males and females respectively.
How exactly it’s done
Not everybody likes it performed the same way, and depending on what I’ve gathered, there’s no absolute way to perform this act and please each person but it is an incredible action unless done poorly or half-heartedly.
In such cases, be polite but concise about what you want/expect your partner to do. Communication is key because it gives someone a tune to play along with. Sometimes communication may not be through words but even the kind of humming sends the right information to feed on and different action is made
In most cases, the place to dwell on as you go down is the clitoris for females, and the speed matters. Mostly the slow pace sets the tone and depending on her reaction, speed can steadfastly increase but not so fast
For males, swallowing the whole manhood can be a great deal as long as you always pull in and out the same way with sex in the vagina. The most important thing here is to use the tongue very well and not in any way should your teeth come in contact with the manhood
What to do when you’re scared to go down on you
First, women who are scared about receiving oral sex always express concerns about the appearance, flavor, or smell of their genitals. Young women get a lot of input telling them that their “private parts” are disgusting and gross.
You have probably seen porn with women whose goodies look different than yours. You see images of women’s bodies all the time, and they are so perfect, and I’m guessing you don’t see yourself that way.
Every woman’s body is created differently and yours included. You don’t have to scrub and perfume and shave and all that. Your body is fantastic. You can do any of that stuff if it makes you feel sexy, but you don’t need to “fix” anything.
The real secret is that pussy juice is boner fuel. It might feel weird at first. It may be an awkward position. It might tickle. Move around. Find the position that is most comfortable for you. You don’t have to do a porn star full split leg lift. Get a position where you can relax.
It’s a negotiation, move and shift till you get it. If it tickles, tell him to move, press harder, more lightly, and try different stuff until you find it. And if he has some idea that “this is what works” because it worked for his last girlfriend, you aren’t her; he needs to go down on you, not his memory of her.
If he’s doing what he saw in porn, you aren’t them either, and that was probably 90% acting. Fake. Don’t ever fake it. You will be teaching him that what he was doing when you faked it works for you, and he will do it exactly like that every time.
In Summary
All that stuff is physical and general, but there’s one more thing. Do you trust him? I mean, trust him? Enough to let him put his face right up in there, enough to ignore him and focus on the feelings you are experiencing?
Are you sufficient to know that he’s not going to say anything nasty or mean? Enough to tell him to go faster? Good to make funny noises in front of him? Enough to completely lose your dignity and grunt and scream and lose control?
You need trust to enjoy sex, whatever sort of sex is on the menu today. Some stuff is more manageable than other stuff. For you, receiving oral might take more trust than giving. That’s ok, but you need to work on it and develop that trust.
Absolute confidence is feeling safe in front of him and him being 100% himself for you. It’s easier if you trust each other. And again, if he’s not worthy of trust, figure that out, and find someone who is so that you can enjoy going down on you
FQAs
- When a man goes down on you, does it mean he is attracted to you?
Yes. A man’s innate need is to feel successful.
- I am too shy to let my boyfriend do oral on me. How do I overcome this?
Ease yourself in it. Tell your boyfriend why you’re insecure about letting him do it. Chances are he will reassure you that everything is fine. Do a lot of foreplay so that you’re really aroused by the time he attempts to go down. This will likely make you more willing to let him make you feel good.
